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Time to Reflect and Celebrate

As another year ends, it is time to reflect on the year that was. 2023 what a year! I remember looking forward to such a wonderful year (especially after surviving the chaos of Southwest Airlines!)  But never did I imagine what the world had in store for us. Two major wars raging, not to mention all the smaller conflicts that get little to no media coverage. Political turmoil, poverty, homelessness, hate crimes, and senseless violence throughout our country and the world. We lost many famous people this year (here is hoping you are eating a cheeseburger in paradise Jimmy Buffett and could heaven be any nicer for you Matthew Perry).

While I could fill line after line of all the terrible things that occurred this year I do want to reflect on some really good things:

  • The smile of a random stranger
  • The laugh of a child
  • A really needed hug
  • Cuddles with a pet
  • Supporters/funders who really understand what we need
  • Partners that are willing to work together
  • Watching co-workers blossom
  • Being able to say yes when everyone else has said no
  • The kindness of people
  • The strength and resilience of our clients
  • The strength and resilience of each one of us

I realize 2024 will bring many challenges, some that we know of, and I am sure many more we do not anticipate. But I cannot help but have gratitude for the things above and many more I did not list. I heard a friend say the other day, someone told her they start their day off with three things they are grateful for. So, I challenge you as I am challenging myself, to start your list of resolutions by finding at least one or two things to be grateful for every morning. My hope is that by the end of next year, your gratitude list is longer than just the few same old things each day!

Happy Holidays and cheers to an amazing New Year!

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Senior Director of Operations and Communications at HCDVCC,

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Supporting Survivors- Shopping Mindfully During the Holidays

The holiday season is a time of joy, togetherness, and celebration for many. However, it’s important to remember that for survivors of domestic violence, the holidays can be a particularly challenging and triggering time. The added stress, financial pressures, and family gatherings can exacerbate their trauma. As we embark on our holiday shopping journeys, it’s essential to keep survivors in mind and take steps to support them during this time. In this article, we’ll explore domestic violence, its impact on survivors, and how we can be more mindful shoppers to help those in need.

Understanding Domestic Violence:
Domestic violence is a pervasive issue that affects individuals of all genders, ages, races, and socioeconomic backgrounds. It encompasses physical, emotional, psychological, and financial abuse, and its consequences can be severe and long-lasting. Survivors often face a multitude of challenges, including fear, trauma, financial instability, and isolation.

The Impact of the Holidays on Survivors:
The holiday season can be particularly difficult for survivors of domestic violence for several reasons:

  • Increased Stress: The pressure to create a perfect holiday atmosphere, buy gifts, and engage in social activities can exacerbate survivors’ stress and anxiety.
  • Financial Strain: Survivors may struggle with limited financial resources due to economic abuse, making holiday expenses even more burdensome.
  • Isolation: Family gatherings can force survivors into uncomfortable situations where they may encounter their abusers or face questions about their relationship status.
  • Triggers: Holiday traditions, such as decorating the tree or exchanging gifts, may be associated with traumatic memories for survivors.

How to Keep Survivors in Mind While Shopping:

  • Support Local Domestic Violence Organizations:
    Consider donating to or volunteering at local domestic violence shelters or organizations. These groups provide critical support to survivors, including safe shelter, counseling, legal assistance, and resources for rebuilding their lives.
  • Choose Ethical and Inclusive Brands:
    Opt for products from brands that actively support survivors and promote gender equality. Look for companies that donate a portion of their profits to domestic violence charities or prioritize hiring survivors.
  • Shop Thoughtfully:
    Be mindful of the gifts you choose. Avoid items that could potentially be used as weapons or trigger traumatic memories. Instead, select thoughtful, non-violent gifts that promote self-care, relaxation, and healing.
  • Gift Cards:
    When in doubt, gift cards to stores or restaurants provide survivors with flexibility and the ability to choose what they need most. Gift cards can also help survivors regain a sense of control over their lives.
  • Respect Boundaries:
    If you’re aware that someone you know is a survivor, respect their boundaries when giving gifts or planning gatherings. Ask for their preferences and avoid pressuring them into uncomfortable situations.
  • Offer Emotional Support:
    Sometimes, a heartfelt note or a simple message of support can mean the world to a survivor. Let them know you care, and that you’re there to listen if they want to talk.

The holiday season should be a time of compassion, empathy, and support for all. By keeping survivors of domestic violence in mind as we shop and celebrate, we can contribute to a safer, more inclusive holiday experience for everyone. Supporting local organizations, choosing ethical brands, and respecting survivors’ boundaries are just a few ways we can make a positive impact during this festive season.

Let’s work together to create a world where survivors can heal and find hope during the holidays and beyond.