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Relaxation Day…Yes you can!

August 15th is National Relaxation Day! What is the first thing that came to your mind when you read that sentence?

  • That is great but there is no way I can relax today, I have too much to do.
  • Relax- who has time for that?
  • Relax- I do not know how.
  • Relaxation is for lazy people.

According to the Oxford Dictionary the definition of relaxation is the state of being free from tension and anxiety. With so much going on in our world, our State and even in our jobs how can we ever be free from tension and anxiety? A lot of us work with people in constant crisis, which just adds to the constant crisis in our own everyday lives. It is often hard to compartmentalize our lives. Our work life bleeds over into our home life and what is going on at home is always in the back of our minds when we are at work. The word boundary gets tossed around a lot but very few of us set them. But you know what- it is okay to set them. There is a reason so many quotes are floating around about taking care of yourself- you cannot pour from an empty cup or put your oxygen mask on first, or you must pour something out before you can refill.

So, let us talk about how we can relax today and how we can incorporate it on a more regular basis. There are the usual activities:

  • Get a massage
  • Get a manicure and or pedicure
  • Talk a walk
  • Watch cute animal videos
  • Read a book
  • Play with a pet
  • Play with a kid
  • Go to a movie

And then there are the things we do not think about:

  • Start a journal
  • Schedule “me” time on your calendar
  • Turn off your phone and step away from your computer for a period of time (and stick to it!)
  • Call a friend or family member you have not talked to in a while
  • Share a meal with a friend or family member
  • Eat by yourself at a restaurant
  • Dance
  • Listen to music and sing along at the top of your lungs
  • List things you are grateful for
  • Smile at strangers
  • Compliment someone
  • Do a random act of kindness
  • Hand write a letter to someone

As Lauren Carter said: “Self-care allows us humans to maintain balance and continue functioning like a well-oiled machine that increases our ability to help care for others. Just as you would not expect your car to run continuously for 5,000 miles without stopping for gas or having its oil changed, you too cannot expect that of yourself! Running on empty eventually leads to a machine that no longer functions”.

Give yourself permission to relax not just today but every day. I challenge you to incorporate relaxation into your daily routine. We all have time to care for ourselves, we just need to realize our needs are just as important as our clients’. We help them get to where they need to be aren’t we significant enough to do the same for ourselves?

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Amy Smith,
Sr. Director of Operations and Communications-HCDVCC
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Community DVAM Op-eds

The Importance of Community and the Power of Friendships

Friendship and Community

In the spirit of National Friendship Day on August 6th, we are reminded of the significance of community and the invaluable friendships that strengthen the bonds within it. As a nonprofit organization deeply rooted in our community, we cherish the relationships we have cultivated with our community partners. These partnerships not only enhance our ability to make a positive impact but also serve as a testament to the remarkable parallels between communities and friends. Let us explore the profound connection between community and friendship and why they both play vital roles in our lives. Communities and friendships are built on a foundation of trust, support, and shared values. Just as friendships thrive on mutual respect and understanding, communities thrive when individuals come together with a common purpose, supporting, and uplifting one another. Both friendships and communities provide a sense of belonging, creating spaces where individuals can be themselves and find solace in the support of others.

Communities, much like friendships, possess an incredible power to bring about positive change. When people unite for a common cause, the collective impact becomes greater than the sum of individual efforts. In a community, diverse perspectives, skills, and experiences converge to tackle challenges, create opportunities, and foster growth. By harnessing the power of community, we can achieve remarkable feats and make a lasting difference.

Friends are often there for us during life’s highs and lows, providing a shoulder to lean on and celebrating our successes. Similarly, communities serve as support systems that lend a helping hand in times of need and offer collective celebrations during moments of triumph. Whether it is providing aid during crises, organizing events that promote unity, or offering resources to those less fortunate, communities act as a network of caring individuals, extending the warmth and compassion of friendship to those within their reach.

True friends motivate us to become the best versions of ourselves, supporting our dreams and pushing us to exceed the limits we place on ourselves. Communities operate in a similar way, offering opportunities for personal and collective growth. Through community engagement, we learn from one another, share knowledge and expertise, and empower each other to develop skills that contribute to the betterment of the whole. In this way, communities foster an environment of continuous learning and inspiration, much like the most nurturing friendships.

During challenging times, the presence of friends can provide immense comfort and resilience. In the same manner, communities act as a source of strength and support when faced with adversity. Whether it is rallying together to overcome a crisis or lending a listening ear during personal struggles, communities and friendships alike promote mental, emotional, and social well-being. Knowing that we have a network of friends within our community provides a sense of security and stability that contributes to our overall happiness and resilience.

As we celebrate National Friendship Day, let us acknowledge the profound connection between community and friendship. Both serve as cornerstones in our lives, enriching our experiences, and propelling us towards positive change. Let us continue to foster strong bonds within our community, embracing the shared values, support, and growth that come with it. Together, as friends within our communities, we can build a brighter future and create a world where friendship and community intertwine to uplift us all.

About the Author

Rebecca Councill, Social media, Manager of Operations and Communications

Manager of Communications and Operations of HCDVCC,

Rebecca Councill

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Crime Victims Op-eds

A Quick Overview of Protective Orders

As a court advocate in the 280th Protective Order Court, my job is to provide support, information, and resources to applicants (those seeking the protective order). At times, the applicants are represented by the District Attorney’s office, hired attorneys, or through an agency (such as AVDA, Lone Star Legal Aid, or other non-profits), or they represent themselves (Pro Se). Pro Se applicants often express their nerves and worries about representing themselves and not knowing how to fully do so. They express a lack of knowledge of the law or what happens in court in general.

Hearing this prompted me (along with the MSW interns working with me) to create a guide for Pro Se applicants, and a list of answers to frequently asked questions. These guides were created to give Pro Se applicants information about court proceedings, and what’s expected of them during the process. With approval from the courts, these guides are available to people when they come in to apply for a protective order. I genuinely believe that knowledge is power, especially when that knowledge is applied. My hope is that these guides will help those representing themselves to feel more prepared for their hearing.

I am not an attorney, and these guides are not legal advice for self-representation, rather information that is helpful to know when representing oneself.

Lastly, we have created a survey (link below) to get a better sense of what advocates know about Protective Orders and what they’d like to learn. This will help guide our Legal Services Committee to plan future trainings.

 

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Protective Order Court Advocate

Deborah Alexis, LCSW

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Mental Health Awareness Month Op-eds

Minority Mental Health Awareness

During the month of July, let us join the nation in celebrating National Minority Mental Health Awareness Month. This observance is a powerful reminder of the importance of recognizing and addressing the unique mental health challenges faced by minority communities. In our diverse society, it is crucial that we shed light on the experiences and struggles of individuals from minority backgrounds when it comes to mental health so that we foster a deeper understanding and cultivate an environment of empathy, support, and inclusivity. Raising awareness about minority mental health helps break down the stigma surrounding mental health issues, and by embracing the stories and experiences of individuals from minority communities, we challenge outdated stereotypes and help to open a space for honest conversations. We know that mental health issues can affect anyone, regardless of their background. However, individuals from minority communities often face additional barriers when seeking help, such as cultural stigma, language barriers, or limited access to culturally competent mental health services. So let us celebrate the resilience and strength of individuals from minority communities who have triumphed over their mental health challenges. During this month, we encourage you to educate yourself about the unique mental health concerns faced by different minority groups.

Thank you for joining us in this important journey of raising awareness for minority mental health!

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BATP Manager of Advocacy and Counseling Services

Morgan Holman

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Mental Health Awareness Month Op-eds

Community Coach/Mentor-KScott

To say I am happy to be a part of this community is an understatement; I am ECSTATIC!

Why? I love to make an IMPACT.


Prior to this field, I was in another field where I was fortunate to earn two degrees as a student-athlete from the University of Utah and received numerous accolades for my leadership, community service, athletics, and academic performance. I was even awarded the Most Inspirational Male Student-Athlete and got opportunities to play professionally in the NFL and CFL.

After leaving that field, I desired to maintain my ability to make a positive impact. That’s why I entered the non-profit sector and gained experience in various areas, including Domestic Violence Shelters, Fatherhood programs, suicide/gang prevention groups, etc.

Now, it’s time to further the advocacy.

With our new program, we aim to decrease the “harm doers” likelihood to exercise verbal/emotional, sexual, physical, financial, and spiritual abuse toward their partner as an option based on their emotional state, history of dysfunction, belief system, and peer association.

My role is to identify healthier coping mechanisms in their intimate relationships that lead to equality between them and their partners through individual coaching for individuals who use violence in their relationships.

As I said, I am ECSTATIC to be a part of this community.

Why? Because I love to make an IMPACT, and I am sure you do too!

 

Will you help to end the violence?

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DVHRT Coach, HCDVCC

Kenneth Scott

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DVAM neurofeedback Op-eds TBI

Why Neurofeedback

The Harris County Domestic Violence Coordinating Council consistently seeks to identify the gaps that create barriers for survivors to have access to safety and services, hold those who do harm accountable and prevent homicides related to domestic violence.

HCDVCC is on the cusp of establishing innovative programming, specific to neurofeedback therapy, to respond to IPV survivors unique needs and concerns and will be introducing a new Neurofeedback pilot program to address the affects of domestic violence on the survivor related to overall emotional wellness.

Why Neurofeedback?
According to the research by Dr. Huda “Shay” Shaikh, the volatile nature of intimate partner violence (IPV) can make survivors vulnerable to experiencing PTSD symptoms. The prevalence of PTSD symptoms among survivors of IPV is becoming a vast area of interest in the mental health field. Regarding the dynamics of IPV, researchers have asserted that IPV survivors are at a higher risk for PTSD and other mental health concerns such as depression. Given each IPV survivors needs, and concerns tend to be unique, alternative modalities in conjunction with trauma-focused therapeutic modalities are being utilized to respond to symptom reduction and care.

Neurofeedback is defined as a noninvasive, neurocognitive intervention that targets brain wave activity and focuses on training the brain to work towards self-regulation (Nooner et al., 2017). Alternative therapeutic modalities, such as NFB, are presently being introduced to special populations such as veterans across the United States by organizations such as Team Semper Fi and The Lone Survivor Foundation in response to traumatic brain injury (TBI) and PTSD symptoms. NFB therapy aims to train the brainwave patterns for the brain to work towards self-regulation (Nooner et al., 2017). Quantitative electroencephalogram (qEEG) guided NFB, otherwise known as brain mapping guided NFB, is the advised path for NFB therapy given its ability to offer a more personalized treatment plan (Wigton & Krigbaum, 2019).

Brain mapping is a process that captures the unique brainwave pattern of an individual undergoing the qEEG. Given that no two individuals will have the same brainwaves, a qEEG provides an exclusive look at an individual’s brain, as unique as their fingerprint. Based on the qEEG recording of the individual’s brainwaves, the clinician develops a treatment plan for that individual. Once the treatment plan is developed, the individual initiates NFB sessions based on the protocols detailed in their individualized treatment plan. Therefore, qEEG-guided NFB allows clinician to create a treatment plan specialized for that individual and their specific brain wave Patterns (Brown et al., 2019). While NFB has been utilized as an intervention for various disorders for four decades, its solidification as an evidence-based therapy for PTSD has yet to be established. However, research has been conducted supporting its helpfulness in mitigating PTSD symptoms. Utilizing NFB therapy to relieve PTSD symptoms is a growing scholarly field.


Dr. Huda “Shay” Shaikh is a Licensed Professional Counselor Supervisor, National Certified Counselor, Board Certified Neurofeedback Clinician, and Board Approved Neurofeedback Mentor. She graduated with a B.S. in Psychology from The University of Houston and earned a Master of Arts in Counseling from the University of Texas at San Antonio. Shay completed her doctoral program in Counselor Education and Supervision in September 2022. Her dissertation was focused on comparing the modalities, EMDR and NFB, in response to intimate partner violence survivor PTSD treatment. Given her passion for trauma work, in addition to being a Neurofeedback clinician, Shay is trained in EMDR therapy, is a CPT provider, trained in providing TF-CBT and well versed in play therapy strategies.

Having a passion for trauma and program management, Shay has worked with a diverse set of populations providing trauma therapy and neurofeedback therapy. Throughout her career, she has been instrumental in building trauma focused programs at different agencies. With a passion for working with combat veterans, Shay has also been a contracted Neurofeedback clinician with the Lone Survivor Foundation to serve those that served our nation. Formerly, with Region 4 Education Service Center, Shay led a trauma team in the Santa Fe District to implement systems and provide trauma-wellness counseling services to students and staff in the district in response to the May 18th mass violence tragedy at Santa Fe High School. Upon the completion of the trauma-focused project with Region 4, Shay worked with the Fort Bend County Women’s Center as their Neurofeedback Supervisor and Counselor to provide mental health services to survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault. Presently, she works with the Harris County Domestic Violence Coordinating Council (HCDVCC) as their Neurofeedback Program Manager/Clinician. Her main responsibility is to establish the neurofeedback therapy program in response to IPV survivor care.

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Neurofeedback Program Manager

Dr. Huda “Shay” Shaikh

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Understanding the Link Between Domestic Violence Trauma and PTSD: Self-Care Tips for Healing

Domestic violence is a pervasive issue that affects millions of individuals worldwide, leaving long-lasting physical, emotional, and psychological scars. Among the various consequences survivors may face, one often overlooked but significant outcome is post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). This article aims to shed light on the relationship between domestic violence trauma (DV) and PTSD, exploring its impact and providing practical self-care tips to support survivors on their healing journey.

There is a complex connection between DV and PTSD. Domestic violence encompasses a range of abusive behaviors that one person uses to exert power and control over another in an intimate relationship. These traumatic experiences can deeply affect survivors, leading to the development of PTSD. The connection between DV and PTSD lies in the enduring sense of fear, helplessness, and ongoing exposure to psychological, emotional, and physical harm.

Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a complex condition that arises from experiencing or witnessing a traumatic event. Survivors of domestic violence often exhibit symptoms consistent with PTSD, including:

  • Intrusive Memories: Vivid flashbacks, nightmares, or distressing thoughts that recur unexpectedly, reminding survivors of traumatic experiences.
  • Avoidance and Numbing: A tendency to avoid places, people, or activities that may trigger memories of trauma, coupled with emotional detachment and loss of interest in once-enjoyed activities.
  • Hyperarousal and Hypervigilance: Heightened anxiety, difficulty sleeping, irritability, and an ongoing state of alertness, as if anticipating danger.
  • Negative Cognition and Mood: Persistent negative thoughts, self-blame, guilt, feelings of shame, and a distorted sense of self-worth.

While seeking professional help is crucial for survivors of domestic violence, integrating self-care practices into their healing journey can play a significant role in rebuilding their lives. Here are some self-care tips to consider:

  • Prioritize Safety: Ensure physical and emotional safety by creating a safe environment, developing a safety plan, and establishing a support network of trusted individuals.
  • Seek Professional Support: Connect with mental health professionals specializing in trauma and domestic violence to guide you through the healing process and provide evidence-based therapies like cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) or Neurofeedback.
  • Practice Mindfulness and Grounding Techniques: Engage in activities that help you stay present, such as deep breathing exercises, meditation, or grounding techniques like focusing on the senses or repeating affirmations.
  • Engage in Self-Compassion: Cultivate self-compassion by treating yourself with kindness, acknowledging your strength and resilience, and practicing self-acceptance.
  • Establish Healthy Boundaries: Set clear boundaries in your relationships and learn to say no when necessary. Prioritize your needs and create a sense of empowerment and control over your life.
  • Engage in Supportive Communities: Connect with support groups, online forums, or local organizations that provide a safe space to share experiences, gain support, and build a sense of community with fellow survivors.
  • Engage in Self-Expression: Explore creative outlets such as writing, art, or music to express and process your emotions in a healthy and constructive manner.

The journey of healing from domestic violence trauma and managing PTSD can be arduous, but it is not one survivors must face alone. By understanding the connection between domestic violence trauma and PTSD and implementing self-care practices, survivors can begin reclaiming their lives and nurturing their well-being. It is essential to be patient and compassionate with oneself throughout the process. By prioritizing safety, seeking professional support, practicing mindfulness, establishing healthy boundaries, engaging in supportive communities, and embracing self-expression, survivors can take important steps toward healing and nurturing resilience. Remember, you are not defined by the trauma you have experienced. With time, support, and self-care, it is possible to reclaim your sense of self and move forward on a path of healing, growth, and empowerment.

About the Author

Rebecca Councill, Manager of Communications and Operations

Manager of Communications and Operations of HCDVCC,

Rebecca Councill

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Mental Health Awareness Month PTSD Awareness Month

June is PTSD Awareness Month – What is PTSD?

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is a specific condition that affects millions of people worldwide. This article will attempt to delve into what it is, discuss common symptoms, and emphasize the importance of seeking help if you suspect you may be experiencing PTSD.

What is PTSD?

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, or PTSD, is a mental health condition that can develop after experiencing or witnessing a traumatic event. These events might include natural disasters, physical or sexual assault, combat exposure, accidents, or the sudden loss of a loved one. PTSD can affect individuals of all ages and backgrounds, and its impact can be long-lasting.

Recognizing Symptoms
Symptoms of PTSD can manifest in various ways, affecting a person’s thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. It’s important to remember that everyone’s experience with PTSD is unique, but some common symptoms include:

  • Intrusive Memories: Flashbacks, nightmares, or distressing thoughts related to the traumatic event that seem to invade one’s mind.
  • Avoidance: Avoiding people, places, activities, or conversations that remind the individual of a traumatic event.
  • Negative Thoughts and Mood: Persistent negative thoughts, feelings of guilt or shame, loss of interest in previously enjoyed activities, or emotional numbness.
  • Hyperarousal: Feeling constantly on edge, being easily startled, having trouble sleeping or concentrating, and engaging in heightened vigilance.

Seeking Help and Support
If you or someone you know is experiencing symptoms of PTSD, it’s crucial to seek professional help. Recognizing the signs and taking action can be the first step toward healing and recovery. Here are a few steps you can take:

  • Reach Out: Speak with a mental health professional, such as a psychologist or psychiatrist, who can assess your symptoms, provide an accurate diagnosis, and offer appropriate treatment options.
  • Therapy: Different therapeutic approaches, such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), or Neurofeedback can be effective in treating PTSD. These therapies help individuals process traumatic memories and develop coping mechanisms.
  • Support Systems: Surround yourself with a network of supportive friends, family, or support groups. Sharing your experiences and feelings with others who understand can provide comfort and validation.
  • Self-Care: Engage in self-care practices that promote physical and emotional well-being. Regular exercise, sufficient sleep, balanced nutrition, and stress reduction techniques like meditation or mindfulness can contribute to overall recovery.

PTSD is a complex condition that requires understanding, empathy, and appropriate support. Recognizing the symptoms and seeking help is crucial for healing and moving forward. Remember, you are not alone, and there is no shame in seeking assistance. Mental health professionals are there to provide guidance, understanding, and effective treatment. Let us embark on this journey together, fostering compassion and hope for those affected by PTSD.

Disclaimer: This article is for informational purposes only and does not substitute professional medical or mental health advice. If you believe you are experiencing symptoms of PTSD, please consult a qualified healthcare professional for a thorough evaluation and personalized guidance.

About the Author

Rebecca Councill, Manager of Communications and Operations

Manager of Communications and Operations of HCDVCC,

Rebecca Councill